Human acting and behaviour fascinates me. What I’m really passionated about, is how we communicate about it.

Communication is Rule numer One – a Silent Revolution.

The Silent Revolution issue is strongly inspirered by the Social Mediaexpert Henriette Weber. As I see it, her angle on the Silent Revolution is her passion for social medias and cybercommunities, naturally. (And so much more, too.) It’s in deep respect, when I twist her way of explaining it,  to my own definition. After all – I think we’re out in simular missions.

I say -claim - that it’s communication, that rules the world. The basic meeting betwen people. In this meeting there’s going so much more on,  than the spoken words, we usually take for granted.  Agree?

There’s a theory, I often use in my speeches, to widen out the elements in the fine art of Empowering Communication.  This theory claims, that the spoken words only is 7 % of the total communication between people. (I better tell you -  some people disagree with Albert Mehrabians theory about Silent Messages. ) I find it very useful, when the context is understanding the  - often unconsious, complex of mechanisms going on, when people meet people. Shortly: the rest of the communication, is the way we’re using our voice (38%) and – very interesting, all the unsaid (55 %). In my universe it includes the intuition, perceptions and prejudices, that either kills the mutual understanding or empowers it. Hope you can follow?

Humans are flockscreatures, depending on eachother. Flocks are communities. Communities are people – individuals. Each person in the community, carries their very own beliefs, experiences, etc, etc, into the community. Hereby they influence, what happens in and with the community.  In other words: every single person on this planet is walking around telling and acting their own truth – version of reality. No wonder, that it comes to misunderstandings and fights, eh? Because each of us is unconsiously convinced, that exatly ‘my’ truth is THE truth. Can you picture this? Does it make sense to you? (Phew – hard to explain my lifeblood in common understandable words.;-))

The missing link – or rule numer One is: to communicate about all this – being courious and tolerant – embracing all the exiting perspectives, there are on everything. That is basic Empowerment. The Silent Revolution is this:  insist in focusing at strengths, potentials and solutions and communicate it to as many as possible. Then watch, how you make the World a better place to be for all of us. Actually – I think this is the main reason, why I’m here on Earth. To spread out this message. And tell how simple it is, when it comes to the matter.

This is a small part of, why Human acting & behaviour fascinates me. And why I’m deeply passionated about how we communicate in and about it. With ourselves and in our different communities.

The Inner Conversation between your thoughts and emotions- maybe the most important of them all – needs at least one blogpost of its own.

Surroundings.

       Parts from my nearest sourrundings. On my balcony I say hello to the sun, when it rises, and goodnight, when it’s sunsettime.  I watch the moon in all her phases - wakes up in the middle of  the night, bathed in moonlight.  From my balcony I shout out my joy and succes to the Universe. My balcony is also a perfect place to cry and scream out frustrations and anger, when everything is too much. (It happens I howl to the moon.) On my balcony and in the  garden I find peace, when thoughts and visions are spinning to fast. Peace and inspiration to sharpen a project from idea to action. Peace, joy and harmony. The Wise Woman and I.                                                             

Udsigt.

View from my balcony.

 

Balconyscene with herbs.

Balconyscene with herbs and flowers

 

Nature versus construction

Nature versus construction

Pink stillettoes among flowers

Pink stillettoes in the sun. Mostly they're out at night.

A flamingo on a balcony?

A flamingo on a balcony?

 

The birchtree

The birchtree

The Wise Woman’s speach about female Entrepreneurship. Part two.

I was asked, if I have any good advices for female Entrepreneurs. I’m The Wise Woman – you know – so of course I have.

My most important advice, is a quote from ‘The big Moo’: ‘STOP trying to be perfect – and start being remarkable’!!!!!! Why That? Because it is my experience, that women seek the perfection in anything we do –right? Wanting to be perfect, blocks us from taking ACTION – and hereby succeed with our business. Or at least, it takes much longer time to realize or Bizznessdream.

Women and growth: In the Entrepreneurial week, I heard a lecture about female Start Ups and their visions for growth and development in their businesses. The female lecturer had some reflexions about female entrepreneurs. She called it ‘The parallel business segment.’ Because women want growth – but not in the traditional way.

Here is what I think: I think, that a lot of women are first-movers, thinking work/life-balance as a value in their business – right from the start. Firstmovers, because doing things your own way – in other words: be true yourself and follow your heart, is the businessway for the future. For all of us. Erhvervs- og byggestyrelsen’  have made an investigation and a report about it too.

The bonus advice: In All the networks, I join, there are at least 3 times more men, than women……! Except one – a female business-network Morgendagens Heltinder. (There are other simular, naturally.) Instead of harcelling over all the black jackets, I have decided to enjoy it. I keep my spirit and believes, in what I think is the right way to be a successful businesswoman. And the – of course – exchange knowledge and experience with my male colleagues. Do the same and have fun AND success.

These were the words from an old rolemodel – the Wise Woman.

The Wise Woman’s speach about female Entrepreneurship. Part one.

Now you may ask: ‘Who is this Wise Woman, though?’

Well – I’m 53 years old. 2 and a half years ago, I started my own company – SamtaleAkademiet, after 26 years in the public sector – working with leadership, management, pædagogik and communication. A Huuuuuge step…..! You may say, that I gave myself SamtaleAkademiet as a fifty-years birthday present. 

So I am an entrepreneur, too. With all the ups and downs there is in it. Indeed, I’ve got come to my hair – but I love it. That’s the short version.

Right now I’m reading a marvelous book – maybe you know it:

‘The big Moo’. It’s written by thirtythree of the most fabulous business – and marketingbrains in USA and edited by Seth Godin. READ IT!

My ‘Big Moo’ in SamtaleAkademiet is about 3 essential issues now and for the future:  Network, Creativity and Personal Leadership.

Network – because I am convinced, that network is THE way, we will organize us in the future – take a look around, and you will see, it’s already begun. So we need to know ‘The Fine Art of Networking’. AND find our own personal way to act in different networkcommunities.

Creativity – do I have to tell you why????  Okay – Creativity is the only way to create the best ‘Never-seen- before’ solutions. Therefore it is important to master BOTH creative tools and the language, that supports creative thinking and emotions.

Personal Leadership – this is the more philosophic part:

I think, that we are meant to be the best, we can be – whatever we do! Personal Leadership is an Inner Journey, that leads us to express ourselves, exactly, as the best we want to be. We are surrounded by so many – well-meaning- people, who all claims to know, how we should act in and manage our business. I have been confused so many times, by all the advices, I didn’t ask for. Now I have decided to smile and nod politely – and throw away all, that don’t make sense for me…. Mastering Personal Leadership is THE excellent way to succeed in Entrepreneurship. – and living…

The Wise Woman and me.

She has always been a part of me as long, as I remember. I just didn’t recognize her, until a few months ago. She appeared to me,  when I was invited be the hostess at an event about Female Entrepreneurship.  

At first – when I was asked, I thought: ‘Oh yeah – hmmm? In my imagination it was ME, who should be the lecturer….!!!! Obviously he thinks I’m TOO old to be a rolemodel for female Entrepreneur-students. Hmmm.’ 

My second thought was: ’ Wauw – YES – I’d love it! Sure – I’m not old – I am The Wise Woman, with the big honour to create the right set-up for 3 fantastic young women, with each their angle and experience with Entrepreneurship.’

This was my first concious meeting with her. At first, she was like a joke. Now I know, that it’s faaaar from the truth. She is a voice in my head, actually it has always been there. But mostly she is a feeling -  a belief. A Silent Knowledge that belongs, where the words are ending. Can you follow? She looks behind things and situations – seeing all clearly. (You should know, how many spanks, I recieved through the years. I wasn’t aware, that the others didn’t know, what I took for granted. It’s not claivoyance – It’s ….????)

The Wise Woman’s heart beats for the children and the youngsters. Sometimes she even appears as a worrier, when it comes to rights and caring for ‘The Future’s Gold’. It happens, though, that a drop of her wisdom touches the so called grown-ups, as a wake-up call. The truth is, that she forgets all around her, when she meets the children and the young ones – having some Empowering Conversations. That’s how it is.

For ME, living with The Wise Woman, it’s a relief to give her a name and a voice. To let her into my life with appreciation. I hardly know her full power yet, but I know for sure, that she will bring me lots of strength, joy and challenges – troubles maybe? (Even more than before, I got to know her…..) What I know is, that The Wise Woman and me, is one  united creature, that’s gonna change the World – creating Worldwide CommUNITY. I am SO exited to see HOW……..

All this brings up the gooooood question: ’Who created who?’ Did I create The Wise Woman? Or - did  she actually create ME?

A Vision for the Future 1.

The Wise Womans vision for the Future:

We’re back to the Tribe-culture.

And CommUNITYcation is the gathering issue- worldwide – including the Universe.

I know, you know, that it is a powerfull, magic combination of Community, Unity and Empowering Communication.

It came to me a saturday morning in the train back to the countryside from CHP.  After a long, exiting day/night, with inspiring people and conversations over a ‘few’ drinks…..

I went to bed – a strange bed, in a strange house – after a spirituel conversation with a coworker. Couldn’t fall asleep.

I had a looooong moment of total clarity.

The answer of all my questions and seeking – the real and deepest essence of, why I am here, and what I’m meant to do and be.

Can you follow me – or is too wierd?

The codeword for the highest meaning with me is: Creating ‘Community’ – the Tool is Empowering Communication. Connector, guide, mediator, helper, catalyst, is some of the words, you can put on me. And then I could sleep – 2½ hour. Up and home.

Suddenly in the train this word –  ’Empowering CommUNITYcation’ flashed in neon in my head.

This issue gathers all my ideas, projects and beliefs – sums it up. Which means, that now I know exactly what to do and be.

(Which also means, that I have to say ‘goodbye’, to projects and ideas, that don’t fit in. Tell me, if you need a good one, and I will share it with you)

ActuallyI think both will be a HUUUUGE relief right from this moment.

A few days later, I discovered, that there is a german company, who actually trademarked ‘CommUNITYcation’. As I read it, (not so trained in the german language) they have the same vision, as me. After some thinking, I came to the conclusion, that CommUNITYcation must be a movement – something meant to be. Bigger and larger, than I can imagine right now. ‘The Wise Woman Says….’

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